You are on the cusp of landing your dream job, a fear of the unknown suddenly envelopes you and as a sudden subconscious knee jerk reaction, you say something negative or inappropriate and within seconds you have just scuppered a fantastic job opportunity.
Why do we self-sabotage interviews?
There are numerous theories into why we create roadblocks to success. Many theorists attribute these self-defeating behaviours to a lack of self-worth or self-confidence. In essence we begin to doubt our ability and ultimately feel not worthy of the job on offer and undeserving of a successful outcome.
How do we avoid becoming serial self-saboteurs?
The first step in preventing self-sabotage happening again is to acknowledge that it is happening in the first place and that the main reason it is happening is down to insecurity. In regards preventing self-sabotage in interviews start by tackling the insecurity by writing down you achievements and success to date. Focus on positive testimonials you received from previous colleagues and employers and try to banish negative thinking for the duration of your interview. Instead write down and focus on the positive aspects of you landing the job. Will this opportunity allow you to reach your full potential? will this job lead to a happier you?, will this dream job allow you to follow your passion?. These are the types of questions you should ask yourself when you feel you are about to self-sabotage your new job opportunity.
Instead of fearing change, try to embrace it and remember that many of the world’s most successful business people leave behind them a lifetime litany of mistakes, most of which have taught them valuable lessons. Think of the worst case scenario as a result of change/success and acknowledge that the chances of this materialising are very slim. Try to visualise what your own personal success will look like whilst acknowledging that seeking perfection in life is a fools dream and be open to new opportunities that could really enhance your career.