With Donald Trump proposing to build a controversial 2,000 mile wall along the border between the US and Mexico, it begs the question do you build psychological, hard to penetrate walls during interview situations?
Psychological and emotional walls are often a protective mechanism which stems from an insecurity, a fear of rejection or a negative experience you experienced in the past. In fact, there are hundreds of potential reason for building these insurmountable walls but one thing is certain that these walls often prevent you from moving forward and performing to your full potential, especially in interview situations.
Why is this?
Psychological walls can make you appear aloof and evasive in interviewers as the interviewer finds it difficult to get a true ensure of your personality. Needless to say you need a certain amount of decorum, keeping your emotion in check, especially anger, during a professional interview. However, on the other end of the scale, you may come across as cold and distant and even as uninterested in the advertised position if that metaphoric wall you have constructed is too thick to penetrate.
In general, open and friendly job candidates are preferred to distant, detached, and stand offish candidates. So generally extroverts are preferred to introverts as they are considered more engaged and enthusiastic.
If you fall into the building protective walls category you should consider setting yourself goals to get outside your comfort zone. For example, attend social gatherings and gradually “let people in” to witness the real you. Try small to commence with. For example, you could set yourself a goal of at meeting at least one new person weekly and set yourself new challenges every week to get outside your comfort zone.
The main reasons behind self-limiting walls are fear and insecurity. The famous author Andrew Murphy once wrote “You are confined only by the walls you build yourself”. Successful people know how to break through these walls and can prevent new ones’ form being constructed. As a consequence, they are free to achieve their full potential and thrive in interview situations.